[Coco] New Video from Cloud-9!

[Kip Koon]

Boisy,
I agree and I thought that was very nicely handled.  Your dad is a wise man.
I try my best to live by that wonderful piece of wisdom.  I too live by that
saying you included at that end also.  
Sometimes my emotions do get that best of me and I don't like it when they
do.  Later after I cool down, I always try to make things right again as
best I can.  Forgiveness is a great thing to do on a daily basis.  I try my
best to be a happy person because I like being around happy folks.  
Anyhow, keep up the great work, Boisy, and everyone else at cloud9tech as
well as everyone on this list.
Kip

-----Original Message-----
From: coco-bounces at maltedmedia.com [mailto:coco-bounces at maltedmedia.com] On
Behalf Of Boisy G. Pitre
Sent: Friday, April 05, 2013 6:48 AM
To: CoCoList for Color Computer Enthusiasts
Subject: Re: [Coco] New Video from Cloud-9!

Steve,

I see you still have a lot to learn about communicating in way that doesn't
make you look like a jerk to everyone else.

Now, I haven't always been perfect in this regard either, and regrettably,
I've made my own share of jaded posts on this very medium over the years.
However, I'm committed to continual self-improvement and recalibration in
order to sharpen my communication skills as well as my ability to make
friends and influence people in positive ways.

Since you took the time to post a suggestion to me on the list, I'll return
the favor to you.

Next time somebody posts something announcing a new product or sharing
something proudly that they've worked on, I suggest that you use this
template:

"Hi <WHOMEVER>,

It's great to see a new product for the Color Computer after all these
years. As a top games programmer for the CoCo back in the day, I know the
satisfaction of creating and producing products for our beloved machine.
It's also fun to see how you've chosen to promote your product with the
video.

Others might disagree, but I found the background music a little
distracting. However, I just turned down the volume and enjoyed the video.

Nice work, and congratulations!

Steve"

See how nice that is? How it flows? You even get to throw in a little bit
about your own achievements, and blow your own horn too. But that's ok,
because you're giving compliments to someone else. People don't mind it so
much when you do that.

And the bonus is that people will actually like you and respect you for
posting such a nice message. It's a "win-win."

Contrast this to the two messages you posted:

"You should have removed the annoying background music.
Never did see the new memory board because I could only stand a few seconds
of the video."

Followed by:

"The point is you should be more concerned about the annoying music than
being annoyed by a spelling error. After all, you do want people to watch
the video."

The problems with the above is:

1. It doesn't start with a formal or informal greeting (e.g. Hello, Hi, Yo,
Boisy, etc.) that we've come to expect in polite dialogue and writing. The
omission of the greeting doesn't allow the reader to ease into the body of
the message.
2. It has a sense of recklessness that doesn't take into account how the
message might be perceived, or "taken" by the recipient of the message.
3. It exudes a certain narcissism and self-centeredness that ignores the
fact that others might like the music and think its fun instead of annoying.
4. It comes across as lecturing and slightly condescending with a "I know
better than you" attitude.

To summarize, your messages were short, quaint, lacked helpful and
constructive criticism, and didn't provide any compliments to counterbalance
the negative tone.

My dad always told me: "Son, treat others like you want to be treated." And
he was right. How you treat people does matter. How you talk to and respond
to them does matter. And the way you treat and talk to people is a mirror of
how you will be talked to and treated.

And I'll end this message with an old dictum that I am doing my best to
follow: "If you don't have anything nice to say [or in this case, type],
don't say [type] anything at all."


On Apr 4, 2013, at 11:22 PM, Steve Bjork <6809er at srbsoftware.com> wrote:

> The point is you should be more concerned about the annoying music than
being annoyed by a spelling error.
> 
> After all, you do want people to watch the video.
> 
> On 4/4/2013 5:56 PM, Boisy G. Pitre wrote:
>> Steve,
>> 
>> Try this:
>> 
>> 1. Turn down your volume on your computer.
>> 2. Click on the scrub bar at the bottom and drag to 0:32 into the video.
That will get you past the boring memory removal and bring you right to the
point where the memory board is shown.
>> 3. Watch it through to the end.
>> 
>> Enjoy!
>> 
>> On Apr 4, 2013, at 6:31 PM, Steve Bjork <6809er at srbsoftware.com> wrote:
>> 
>>> You should have removed the annoying background music.
>>> Never did see the new memory board because I could only stand a few
seconds of the video.
>>> 
>>> On 4/4/2013 1:39 PM, Boisy G. Pitre wrote:
>>>> Juan found a misspelling, and I couldn't stand to see it there.
>>>> 
>>>> Here's the newly uploaded video.
>>>> 
>>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRXPJuGW5pI
>>>> 
>>>> 
> 
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